Thursday, February 18, 2010

MY biggest "small world case"

*This is the story of our two daddies!!!!

The biggest small world case I’m too much busy thinking of the blog itself that I forgot that the
biggest small world case is my husband. Here goes.

It started around 2006, I was about to graduate and already doing my thesis and about to graduate and during those times, I’m in the middle of my gay college life. I met him through guys4men, he left a message and when I clicked on the photo, my eyebrows raise and went to the highest level. I asked myself, is it possible? Is it really him? I probed for more questions and confirmed it was really him.

Flash back to the 2nd power
MJ was one of my childhood bestfriend, we both have the same first name;MARK, and we shared common interest, I was actually lucky enough because during my childhood days, I’m quite soft and a bit effeminate, but he stayed beside me, even if everyone knows how cool (and straight) he was. He’s one of those cool guys that’s on top of the class, everyone respects, that and all. I first met his older brother when they got into the argument, I went to him and they’re already nearly shouting to each other, after some time, his brother left. MJ’s brother is taller, looks like him, and talks like him.
*Family portrait; MJ-the childhood bestfriend, Tita Madel-their super cool mom. Jeff-my life.

FAST FORWARD (not so distant past)
We exchanged phone numbers, and during those time, he was still staying with his mom at San Pablo while working in Batangas. He said I was familiar to him, and since he was surprised I know A LOT of things about him, he then finally concluded that I was indeed, his younger brother’s childhood bestfriend.

I just came from a 2 guys-one week love affair, so during that time, I was healing my zombiefied heart. We started as friends with 50% MU, we dated, we went to each other’s office/school, I introduced him to my friends/ex-gf(yes, I’m THAT close to my ex-gf that I introduced him to her!), etc. Then later on, we decided to take it to the next level, we became a couple. He accepted my flaws, all and that and I laid out my cards. It went on for almost a year... ALMOST. during our 10th month, he can't bear what I was doing, being the jerk that I was, plus I was falling out of love. I prayed for a sign and HE did gave me one; I'm already hurting him and I need to stop.

*Tita Madel's birthday celebration last year.
FAST FORWARD (present)
Last December 2008, we started seeing each other again, during the Simbang Gabi series, December 17, I received HIS message, I'm the chosen one to make him happy. By that time I already grew up, learned a lot of things from my exes and like I said, a message from HIM. HOW? Through the priest's sermon/ homily.

I owe it a lot to Fr. Jun Sescon of the Greenbelt Chapel. Whenever I feel down, feel bad, or I need a sign/ message from HIM. He answers them through Fr. Jun Sescon.

December 17, 2008, homily. He preached that if we will be bringing the Joseph-Mary love affair to the present date, everyone might raise their eyebrows to Mary. She got pregnant, not with Joseph, and Joseph needs to marry her and needs to take care of the child, that's not his. He accepted that big responsibility of taking care of a child that's not his and taking the shame of being a father to someone that he was just told will be his wife. Imagine that in our present time with a At that point, I realized that Kojie was given to me not because of anything else but to make him happy.

Things changed this time, after we got back, we didn't count how long we've been together, for some reason, we were happier and everyday is like a new day for us. When he moved in to my place, we became happier, and last year, the best time we had was our 1 week date slash Kojie's birthday celebration and vacation at Boracay, when we went to Subic for Ocean Adventure and Zoobic, and of course, when we(our relationship) had been blessed by MCC Philippines and Kojie's mom and aunt, together with our close friends, colleagues, and churchmates went to witness, taking our relationship to the next level.

*Pastor Regen Luna performs the Rite of Blessing.

*What everyone was waiting for; including Jeff's mom who was taking a video of it.

One of Kojie's mom's surprise to me was when she brought out our childhood elementary pictures. During our elementary days field trips, his mom took some pictures and we were really young back then. She also gave me a Christmas gift last year, and that's when I felt, I'm already part of their family. I'm really thankful for her understanding and her sweetness towards Kojie and I, especially when she cooks oh-those-so-heavenly dishes!

Meanwhile, my parents already have an idea, but since I'm not "that" close to them, no confirmation yet. My cousin asked me to come out at least to my brother and cousins, and so I did, they already met Jeff during my grandmother's 94th birthday, they all loved him (of course!).
*And the two prince lived happily ever after.
Right now, we're enjoying each other's company, getting familiar with each other more and more, and creating the promise of happiness for each other.

yep, it's a small lotsa-lovin' world after all...

*pictures to follow


  1. Von Draye,

    Wow. Your love story sounds like a movie. Nakakatuwa naman. =) But the big question is: how did your childhood best friend Mark react when he found out about you and Kojie?


  2. @Kane, the usual, he took it like a "cool guy."

    @Manech, thanks. :)

  3. @citybuoy, yeah, my life is indeed like the movies, sana lang maging fantasy, mas gusto kong maging avatar. lol.